First date done. Now for the bat-shit crazy, hair pulling stress-fest that is ‘will he text me’ time.
This one is a Brit. A Brit who lives in Dubai, which is actually quite handy for a girl in Kuwait that is used to doing her own thing. And the date was the best Kuwait-date ever.
He had researched places to go and kept it a secret until an hour before we went. We were going to a shooting range. So in my stiletto heeled boots, jeans and black vest top, with my new Marc Jacobs clutch under my arm I found myself selecting which hand gun I wanted to shoot with. There was a certain Lara Croft element to the evening and it was hot.
At the end of the night, in the taxi, I was wishing he would/could kiss me (Kuwait not being a PDA kinda place for singles at the best of times but it’s also Ramadan). So a peck on the cheek was all that was managed. Toe curlingly frustrating.
But now for the part I HATE. The part that is like waiting for exam results or waiting to hear about a job interview that you thought had gone well but you weren’t quite sure.
Will he text?
There are two camps that have opinions on this waiting game. Those that say I should text him. Those that say I shouldn’t.
This group includes my mother and one of my Twitter buddies, Nutty Cow. The argument is that The Rules is psycho-babble-bull-shit from America and has no place interfering in our lives. My mum also draws on experience to back the argument up and says if she had waited for my dad to call her, I wouldn’t exist. Mother also thinks a text the next day saying thank you is just good manners and ‘how else will he know he did well?’. Training boys is like training puppies.
The Should Nots:
Mr Always Right is a ‘should not’. He always says that if I guy likes me, he will go out of his way to text me. If I’m not the forefront of his mind and therefore he’s texting me, then why am I wasting my time on him? He also says that guys like a challenge and by being too available and texty I could come across as needy and easy. Usually sleeping with them on the first date makes the ‘easy’ bit obvious but I didn’t this time.
So like I dick I have checked whatsapp twice and seen he’s been online. And he’s not text. He knows I go on holiday on Friday. So do I wait it out or will I cave in?
I HATE THIS BIT.